The book I am writting has a very simple premise, focus on one single virtue each month for twelve months. By focusing on just one attribute at a time the hope is that it won’t be too overwhelming. Since I want to make sure this actually works, I am trying it out for myself.
For the first month I am wearing a gold colored band as a constant reminder to be honest, and to practice integrity. So far I haven’t really been challenged to be honest, so I’m not sure how much of a different the wristband is making, but it is in the back of my mind.
For me honesty means to be completely honest in all your interaction- certainly to the people that matter most to me. I have only been married for three years, but from the begining I made a decision to never hide anything from my wife. If I can’t share everything with her, than life would be pretty lonely. She has been pretty honest with me as well- and I think it has helped us always have very open comunications. It makes me feel safe to share anything with her.
One thing I have learned though, is that timing does matter. Being honest is important, but there is a right time for it- being honest at the wrong time can totally ruin the mood.